This is inspired by a thread on a different site, but thought it would be a good one here.


What makes you think love is worth it? Is it worth it? Have you given up on love?


I'll start.
I think love is worth it. My reason why is a direct quote from one of my favorite movies The Mirror Has Two Faces:

"We all want to fall in love. Why?
Because that experience makes us feel completely alive,
where every sense is heightened,
and every emotion is magnified.
Our everyday reality is shattered
and we are flying into the heavens.
It may only last a moment, an hour, or an afternoon,
but that doesn't diminish its value,
because we are left with memories
that we treasure for the rest of our lives."

I'll let ya know if I ever find out it's worth it. I've not gone quite as far to give up on it, but I'm pretty sure it's given up on me.

I believe love IS worth it, as long as its mutual.
Unrequited love is definitely NOT worth it.

Jeanne .... I loved that movie and totally agree with that quote

NewOrleanian ..... you are correct, loving someone that doesn't return your love stinks!

BigGunn ... I too feel like love has given up on me lately, but I haven't given up on it.

In my little ole opinion, love if most definitely worth the trouble. I want to love and be loved. For those like me who haven't been fortunate enough to find their special someone, we just have to remain positive, hopeful, and open to the possibility of love! As I tell my students everything and everyone wants and needs love!

Is love worth it?

From someone who waited nearly 40 years to find it....YES, YES, YES....it's worth it!

I think it's important to learn how to love yourself first. Don't wait on love. Live your life - fulfill yourself - make yourself happy - reach for your own dreams. Keep the faith and love will come.

Tracy.... I'm so very happy for you! Maybe there's hope for me yet!

Never lose hope!

if its given between both it is definately worth it..i had it for 31 yrs. and i hope to have it again someday..if you give and don't get in return then its not worth it because your left feeling alone and empty and that sucks..nothing worse than feeling alone and being married..i know this sounds messed up but i was on the end of not giving as much as getting and what i would give to go back and play that role over again..boy would i do things different..i had a man that loved me unconditionally and deserved it back tenfold but things just wasn't how i wanted them right then and i didn't return his love and would give everything today to be able to do it now..god rest his soul..

I haven't completely given up on love...but it sure hasn't convinced me that it's still out there....so until it does...I'll keep on truckin'!

life would be pretty miserable to me if i gave up on love... especially since there are so many kinds of love not just the romantic kind... i'm sure enough traumatic life experiences might make someone abandon the hope of romantic love but how can you give up on love in the greater sense of the word... i can't imagine a life devoid of the love of art, music, food, home, beauty, friends, god and family (in no particular order)... i think that i have been lucky to have loved and been love intensely and sweetly in romantic relationships... to have been with what felt like the love of my life on a couple of occasions was divine... i have also been in a couple of startlingly disappointing relationships... but like my love of other things, i cant see letting those experiences overshadow the tremendously beautiful ones... i mean, come on, just because mint chocolate chip ice cream nearly made me hurl doesnt mean that there is no ice cream that will be delicious to me

Gosh I hope so..... If I ever find love, I'll let you know!

I don't think I've given up, but I think I'd be better off if I did.


I think I had the love of my life, and when he died, that was it. I hope I'm wrong, but I can't imagine ever finding something like that again.


But I love my kiddo, and my family, and my friends, and my life. I'll bloom where I'm planted, you know?

I do know... and with that attitude, you will be just fine!

Yes yes yes!!!
I've met the man I want to spend the rest of my life with! I have to say all the frogs I kissed before I met him were worth it! I'm not saying that life is perfect, but its good. Really good. I've learned how to overlook issues i've previously had trouble with. I find that I want to fight for us where before him i'd walk away carefree. Its not easy, by any means, but its definitely worth it!

I haven't given up on love... I just broadened my definition

Romantic love is a rush and I have those sweet memories to savor. I hope to someday have a special someone to share romantic love again.

but....love means so much more to me now

love of self, true friends, children, pets and spiritual unconditional love that flows through those that let it.

love you too soul sister!

OMG You're back! Hi! How ya been?

In the immortal words of...who was it, Tennyson, "'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."
Can't help but think those words are true. And having had love go sour doesn't mean one has to give up on love...It's not something that you can find everytime you look, but enjoy it when it happens. And yes, it CAN happen more than once I think.

I have givin up on love my first was great the second was a messs and the last time i was ruined...

I have loved and lost...... yes I would do it again he was a wonderful man.

But I guess my problem is finding love again....... I am not sure if one person could find a great love twice

i hope you don't lose hope! i think there's plenty of great love out there to be found

Love comes in many forms. When we give up, we lose hope. Without hope we are nothing.

Thanks! I just think lately that if he is out there, he better show up at my door LOL it's so different these days then when I was younger, but I do have hope....... and patience

i'll never give up on love because i want it again and i hope its a wonderful as my first was..it lasted for 31 years and i sure want that again..

yes love is worth it... for the past 11 years i would have to say love had given up on me.... or i had given up on love.... went thro a really bad marriage.... the kind you don't want to tell what happen... had 4 kids in the 10 years i was married.... got divorced and finally moved back home.... but how many men really want a ready made family??? a woman with baggage.... kids that have problems because of what they have seen....

but i did not give up on love and i can say that love will over come just about anything....
i have now found my first love i ever had.... and he has taken on me and my kids..... and he asked me to marry him.... so yes love is worth it.... never give up hope.... love will find you....

I have certainly not given up. And yes, it is worth it.

"In the end there are three things that last: faith, hope and love; and the greatest of these is love."

even though things haven't worked out for me in the past and i am currently gong through a divorce, I have to believe that it is out there. For now,I'll love myself, my family, and my friends. life is good.

Love is worth it. The pain after losing a love is worth it as well. This pain insures you that " Yes, you did find true love."

If you lost love, don't give up hope. it will revolve right back to you, sooner or later.

I think I have a doorstop in my door though...

love is definitely worth it as long as both parties are willing to work at it.

I don't know, Still not sure it is worth the trouble.

But maybe one day, someone will change my mind.

I think it is worth the "trouble" as long as both parties are willing to do their part. It should be an equal partnership; without this, I don't see how it could work.

I don't know I may have found it...Stay tuned...

I've never had it, but I've had close. If close is any indication of how the real thing is, it is VERY worth it. Maybe one day I will find someone else willing to put in their 100%.

If you find it.,hang on to it.,unless it doesnt love you back.,then let it go.

Love is the most wonderful thing a human being has and I'll keep serching till I have it. When I find it again I'm gonna hold onto it....

I think love is worth it. But finding it is the hard part.

It's like Hawkeye Pierce said in the last episode of MASH.."I can't honestly say I've loved you all..but I loved as many of you as I could ;-)"

That is funny !!!.. I might have to use that one

Little did I know when I posted the above that within a year's time I would have indeed found love to be worth it. The wife and I just celebrated our 1st anniversary on the 24th and love her more now than I did the day we said "I do".

Yay! Congrats on the anniversary!

Good Deal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I giving it up... And Don't seem to be looking for it... Oh Well maybe just maybe someone might change my mind... But I douth it...

Congrats Gunn!

Love is great to find, but you can have a happy fulfilling life full of love and laughter without necessarily sharing it with one special person.

Thats true Tracy... But all I seem to find is either Cheaters, Low Lifes, Guys that just want a pieace, Not anyone thats really looking for a relationship...

Relationships are over rated :-p... What ever happend to get in, get off, get out... lol

Kidding... Kinda

Good gracious, I was looking for the "like" button.
Anyway, I'm so happy for you, both!

Well hmmm Now I seem to have actully in my life find someone that SAIDS that he really cares about me.. We have alot in common ( which I know that that probley don't matter) And we have been talking since the 29th of June. I wont get to see him till about the 29th of July. He saids that he can't go with out talking to me.. How can I tell if he really does Love me????????????????????????????????????

Love don't happen that way!!!! and you won't be able to tell!!!! Like I said many moons ago "You won't find LOVE like you want at this site, " you will find friends". However the advice you seek should come from someone you are close to.

Johnny Love - More Right than Wrong "Age does matter"